OK, so let’s get a jump on your New Year’s Resolutions.
Admit it, somewhere on the list (likely # 1 or # 2) is the desire to “lose some weight” – right? If you’re like me it is, especially after all those holiday get-togethers and endless social/work functions. The clothes are feeling a bit more snug, you’re chiding yourself for eating all those goodies, and deep down, you really do want to re-discover that youthful physique that only you can see in the mirror.
But before you jump head long into yet another tasteless diet or stress-inducing exercise routine come January 1st, 2010, I’d like you to take a moment to evaluate where you are on the ABC’s of Health:
• What is your “Attitude” regarding change?…
• What are your “Beliefs” about health, and?…
• What is your “Commitment” to changing your lifestyle?…
And while I know many of you are probably wanting to cut to the chase – “just give me a diet that works… an exercise routine I can do easily… or maybe both” — it’s vitally important to know what your individual context is for creating change. The goal is to know that whatever lifestyle changes are, indeed, made, that these health-enhancing behaviors become a new way of life for you, not just another resolution that bites the dust by the 3rd week of January.
This week’s post will focus on the first of these ABC’s: “Attitude.” (Subsequent posts will shed new light on the other two…) Nonetheless, our attitude is the lens through which we see and perceive the world. In effect, it is our world. And while many of us would like to think that the world is happening to us, in reality the world is nothing more than a reflection of our attitude. A sobering and unsettling thought…
Recent research by Barbara L. Fredrickson, PhD, and wonderfully profiled in her new book, Positivity, demonstrates that individuals are most likely to adopt lasting change in their lives when they have a more positive outlook about life, as demonstrated by a higher percentage of positive emotions, especially when contrasted with their percentage of negative emotions. Somewhat obvious, but an easily overlooked and often ignored dynamic.
Profiled on her website is a quick two-minute test to assess “your degree of positivity.” (Please see http://www.positivityratio.com/single.php for the complete test.) Outlined below are the questions and the scoring key from her unique program to assess your “positivity quotient,” and ultimately your willingness to change:
(The scoring is: 0=Not at all; 1=A little bit; 2=Moderately; 3=Quite a bit; and 4=Extremely)
What is the most amused, fun-loving, or silly you felt? _____
What is the most ashamed, humiliated, or disgraced you felt?_____
What is the most angry, irritated, or annoyed you felt? _____
What is the most awe, wonder, or amazement you felt? _____
What is the most contemptuous, or disdainful you felt? _____
What is the most disgust, distaste, or revulsion you felt? _____
What is the most embarrassed, or self-conscious you felt? _____
What is the most grateful, appreciative, or thankful you felt? _____
What is the most guilty, repentant, or blameworthy you felt?_____
What is the most hate, distrust, or suspicion you felt? _____
What is the most hopeful, optimistic, or encouraged you felt?_____
What is the most inspired, uplifted, or elevated you felt? _____
What is the most interested, alert, or curious you felt? _____
What is the most joyful, glad, or happy you felt? _____
What is the most love, closeness, or trust you felt? _____
What is the most proud, confident, or self-assured you felt? _____
What is the most sad, downhearted, or unhappy you felt? _____
What is the most scared, fearful, or afraid you felt? _____
What is the most serene, content, or peaceful you felt? _____
What is the most stressed, nervous, overwhelmed you felt? _____
Now take a moment and assess just how “willing” you are to change by your overall scores. I’ll give you a hint, the score of “positives” needs to be bigger than the score of “negatives.” It’s a simple test, yet what Dr. Fredrickson has proven through countless research studies is that this simple assessment is most powerful in what it reveals about your attitude toward change, as well as your willingness to shift your life experience.
I’ll admit it; this is a very different kind of “scale” by which to measure just how much you want that new lifestyle. But gaining greater insight about your “Attitude” towards life, in general, and towards a healthy lifestyle, in particular, will do more for you to realize your desire, and ultimately your day-to-day behaviors to achieve that new level of health and well-being. It’s incremental… and it starts with how you “see” this process.
And finally, give some thought to what’s behind that desire to “lose some weight.” Is it simply a practical issue of wanting your clothes to fit or not wanting to spend more money on a “new” (i.e. bigger…) wardrobe, or is it fueled by a deeper, more profound desire to feel better about yourself? I know, these are easily asked questions, yet not so easily answered. Trust me, I’ve been there and truly empathize with the lifestyle choices you are in the process of making here.
Just know that there is a better way, and in subsequent posts, we’re going to explore what they are and how all these choices and lifestyles changes will liberate you to become a whole new you – maybe even better looking than that amazing “reflection” you see daily.
So, take a few moments to “size yourself up,” and then reflect on what might be fueling or, more importantly, what might be blocking your positivity scoring. And during this magical time of year, be grateful for all that you have, know that you always have the power to change and rest assured that the world awaits you and all that you wish to be.
À votre bonne santé
























