One of the courses I’m taking on leadership has a module on coaching which I find, has a use in many areas of my life with the multiple hats I wear as a parent, boss, client, team builder , and leader. 

This module is called ‘Principle-Centered’ Coaching which includes: 

TRUST – to have faith, confidence and belief in another.  It is the basis of meaningful healthy relationships.         

Trust & Respect Go Hand In Hand

Trust is the cornerstone for ABSOLUTELY  EVERYTHING.  This can mean trusting your kids to make the right decision or having trust that your employees or Team will step up and do what needs to be done.
As a footnote to this, sometimes it’s hard for us to trust others because we’re not sure they can do it the way we do it.  In listening to a lecture on effective time management, it’s smart to delegate if the task can be done at least as ’70% as good as you can do it.’
RESPECT – is treating another human being with dignity and kindness.  In coaching it means we honor who they are, what they have accomplished, and who they can become. 

Respect those for those within your team means being willing to consider and value the ideas and skills they bring to your team and guiding them without interfering in their process.  You recognize each member is competent and communicate that they are valuable — help them build self-esteem, be an encourager, help them to become a confident leader.
SERVICE – is the driving force behind all we do.  In our families, communities, and business.  Service to others represents a commitment to assist those who are part of your team (kids or business) in developing their talents and always put their best interests first.  

Serving At Home and in the Community is Important

INTEGRITY – is when our thoughts, words, and actions are in alignment.  We are honest, do what we say we will do, and keep our commitments.  It means being truthful at all times and striving to do what’s right — rather than what’s easy.
AUTHENTICITY -  is when we are natural and genuine with no need to appear more successful than we are or to have all the answers they are looking for. 

Authenticity means being open and honest, even about our own human frailties.  You rely on your strengths and seek growth and assistance.
Let me share with you an example of how to apply these principles as it applies to children.   See if you can identify which principles we are embracing.
WITHOUT PRINCIPLE-CENTERED COACHING: 

Amanda, way to go selling 1,000 boxes of Girl Scout cookies. 

WITH PRINCIPLE-CENTERED COACHING: 

Amanda, that was courageous stepping out in faith and giving it everything it needed to reach your goal
to sell 1,000 boxes of cookies.  I’m proud of you.  I can’t wait to see you swim with the dolphins. 

Girl Scout Cookies

One last point in this area for today . . . 

Your child, employee, or team member has the answers . . . 

As leaders, we have the natural desire to nurture, solve, and yes, even rescue.  But what does this accomplish? 

Does this help the person grow in the area of leadership?  I know my tendency is to ‘go into solution mode.’   

A better choice to develop leadership in others is to ask open ended questions that cannot be answered with a yes or no, but which require the person to look deeper inside themselves. 

Usually these questions begin with WHAT or HOW not WHY. 

For example: 

What steps will you take to move forward on that project? 

How committed are you to that action plan? 

What do you think you would do differently? 

These are questions WE CAN ASK OURSELVES! 

I’d like to give credit to the Direct Selling Women’s Alliance — and tremendous organization dedication and education they give to
the networkmarketing and directing selling industry — for women — but as you can see so much of what  they teach  assists us in becoming better individuals who JUST DO LIFE BETTER. 

For more information, you can visit their website at http://snipurl.com/dswa-info 

To learn specifically about their coaching programs which frankly I believe can help us be better communicators and teachers, check out:  

http://snipurl.com/dswa-coaching  The whole idea is behind  Principle Centered Coaching is to learn how to ask better questions — leading to a better outcome for all parties. 

Remember, How you do anything, is how everything! 

Debbie Wysocki is the owner of Women with Dreams and residual Money secrets – companies that empower the average person to live an extraordinary life by teaching how to build profitable businesses in the network marketing arena. She is a wife, mom, volunteer, a top producer in the MLM industry, a real estate investor, author, trainer, and former Beverly Hills financial analyst who is passionate about helping others succeed. Her motto is ‘How you do anything, is how you do everything!’For more information or to contact Debbie directly:  Debbie@WomenWithDreams.com  954-781-6629